are you holding onto things that no longer serve you?
We’ve all been there… it’s 2pm on a Sunday and you’re wondering whether you should quit your job or move on from the relationship you’re in or whether or not you should throw away that once-comfy tee that you haven’t worn in two years. While the latter may seem obvious like, “Throw that out girl! There are plenty of other comfy tees in the retail seas”, the higher the stakes and the higher number of people who can potentially be affected tends to… complicate things to say the least. So, how can you figure out if you are holding onto things that no longer serve you?
We got you! You’ll find a *free* (because who doesn’t love free) interactive PDF that you can print out or fill out on your laptop, below! But, first: some backstory because I want you to know where this is coming from.
It was January of 2014…
Just kidding. We don’t need to go that far back. No.
A few months ago, I found myself in the tub, crying with shame, because I was considering closing down the Etsy shop where I sold 3D printed jewelry.
It wasn’t any ol’ Etsy shop I was thinking of letting go. Not to me.
My fiancé and I came up with the idea in January 2014 (ah, there it is) to combine my creativity and his engineering skills to create 3D printed jewelry. Over the course of that year, we went on to not only make sales but also be invited to indie market events where we rocked it — making well over $1k in a weekend. And it was just a side hustle. Barely that even! It was more like a hobby, an experiment.
But there I was, sitting in the tub, wondering if my shame-tears were what was filling it or if the faucet was on.
I felt ashamed because this is something we had built together. I also felt this way because I felt like friends and family might think we failed in a way. Mind you, that was a pretty ridiculous thought considering all the data proved otherwise but alas, it’s how I genuinely felt. I felt ashamed because it was once something I was so excited about and now felt… meh.
Plus, with everything else going on in the world, it just didn’t seem to fit into the plan anymore. It didn’t seem to really serve me anymore.
However, I felt like I needed to hang on to it for fear of disappointing my fiancé, for fear of disappointing our families who ask about how the shop’s doing every now and then, and disappointing myself.
The turning point of figuring out if I was holding onto things that no longer served me came when I got real honest with myself and asked myself a series of difficult questions.
- What would happen if I let go? What would I feel?
- If you were to keep holding on what would happen?
- Is there a way of loosening your grip/compromising without giving it up entirely? If so, are you willing to try that out and see how you feel?
In doing so, I realized that some of the resentment I felt when it came to the shop had to do with feeling incredibly pressured to get orders shipped ASAP even though I had a few days to do so (pressure I was putting on myself). A lot of the stress I was feeling had to do with the fear of a customer possibly being upset about their order or needing to exchange/return it (fear of the future / fear of disappointing others).
When you’re, by default, a people-pleaser like I am, it can get mad stressful!
Here’s the thing though… you with me?
After asking myself that series of questions— the same exact questions in the clarity sheet below— I realized that I can still have the Etsy shop if I were willing to compromise and make changes. Changes like having someone else like my fiancé or someone on my team handling the biggest source of my stress: customer support.
I realized that while it didn’t serve me in the way we had originally set it up, it could serve me with a few tweaks.
Then something interesting happened: I found myself feeling excited about my shop again.
Just like that, with a few questions and challenging myself to consider possibilities, my outlook changed and I got so much more clarity on what needed to be done. And it excited me!
Because of that, I decided to share with you the questions that helped me through this so that you can get clarity yourself. Download it for free below!
All in all, ask yourself tough questions and be honest with yourself. If your body and intuition are practically yelling to let something go, don’t ignore it and keep pushing through; you’ll only wind up hurting yourself. BUT…! If you start feeling excited after considering a few tweaks that can be made then go for it! Schedule it on your calendar and keep yourself accountable.
Anytime you find yourself asking, “Am I holding onto things that no longer serve me?”, take out that Clarity Sheet and go through the questions.
So, tell me: are you holding on to something or afraid of moving on from something that is no longer serving you? Comment below and let’s see if we can get you clearer on the next steps you should take.